Tassja and I found each other through the #ReligiousTraumaSyndrome tag on Instagram, and I'm happy to share her story with you. It involves an up-and-coming in the Toronto film industry, a stint at a tattoo shop, losing a best friend to a high-demand religion... oh yeah, and Mean Girls.
"Sometimes you can only find heaven by backing slowly away from hell." Carrie Fisher quotes are a great start to any blog post, amirite? Seriously though, I've got that quote up on my dorm room wall in red-orange pen, complete with a grinning skull doodle that I like to think Carrie would've appreciated. It's there … Continue reading Backing Slowly Away from Hell: Post-Traumatic Growth and Deconversion
We'll start with a 2-min science lesson: Allostatic load is what happens when we're always running from the bear There's this thing that neuropscyhologists talk about sometimes called allostasis. Now, this is gonna get a little scientific, but bear with me! I'll break it down for ya. With bears. When we meet life's challenges, our bodies lose energy. … Continue reading The Allostatic Load of Christianity: How Toxic Theology Can Stress The Shit Out of Us
Hey there, everyone! Hope your 2016's been warm and furthering this far. It's been a busy, draining start for me, hence why this article is out a little later than usual. In the weeks since I last posted, I've been wrestling with a near-accusatory thought: maybe I shouldn't be blogging about my ex-Christian experiences (experiences?) if my church … Continue reading Terrific People Taught Me Terrible Things: Why That Place of Worship Didn’t Have to Mean It to Hurt You
According to some people, I'm not surviving right. I should forgive my ex-church family, because they meant well. I should suck it up and make peace with Christianity, because it's not fair to associate your trauma with ALL Christians. I should stop being rude to people at church. I should be a Good Survivor, like Tumblr user kielbasanova brilliantly laid out...